Wait – why are we doing this exactly?

27 Mar

This is supposed to be a sewing blog about making gowns, but I am going to be a little philosophical and ponder for a while about why we are pursuing this strange and wonderful sport.  I know it costs a lot of money and we can and do get injured doing it, but that is true of a lot of sports – ask me how I know!

After seeing and hearing about so many couples who argue and fight and split up and get new partners or coaches, couples who seem to be so disappointed in competition results even when they get medals (!), who don’t even seem to enjoy the process of learning, with all the ups and downs that entails, I wonder why we continue.  I asked someone how they felt after practice awhile ago and was told – ” How do you think I feel after practice?  Angry!”

Hmmmm…..this is not a situation I could tolerate.  Admittedly, we did have a pact when we started competing that included the principle that I specifically would no longer continue if it was not fun.  My beloved partner has taken part in many sports and done extremely well for the most part because he trains obsessively and now and then was impossible to live with during times of stress, such as preparing for a big race.  I wanted and still want no part of that!

And we have created a rule where certain problems that seem unsolvable by us must be taken to the teacher.  Even if it is just a difference of opinion, it gets shelved until our coach is able to look and see what is really happening.  That has gotten us out of a few tough spots.

So why DO we do this?  Well, for the most part, the practicing and competing are fun.  Not every moment, but a lot of it.  Because we, again for the most part, truly enjoy the people we practice and compete with and would miss them if we didn’t see them regularly.  The learning – that is amazing.  To learn a skill at a reasonably high level at our age is not only, as the experts are telling us, good for our brains and bodies, but extremely mentally stimulating and a wonderful challenge and a good self-esteem booster.  Our coaches have embraced our attitude that we are doing this for enjoyment and contribute by having fun with us and also pushing us just enough to keep us – dare I say – “on our toes?”  And it is one of the few things that we actually do together as a couple.  Who needs more activities that we do apart? So I think as long as we are learning and improving and feeling like we are making progress, as slow as it sometimes seems, we will keep on dancing.

And the gowns.  Can’t forget about the gowns:-)

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